Regarding Ta'addud (polygamy): let's turn to honey Mukaddimah

Islam has mensyari'atkan Ta'addud (polygamy) as one solution to the problem of the household, especially when a household is on the verge of collapse.
If a household is no longer in harmony and relationships between husband and wife are always colored by quarrels and even betrayal (read: cheating), then its destruction is only a matter of time. Logically, in conditions that had reached this stage, it is very difficult to restore that relationship as before and if they can, it will require not a short time. Thus, the only way - if still wanted the household remains intact and does not require the destruction of it - is to make peace and defeatist but halal.
In this case, we have the example of one of the Mother of the Faithful, which Sauda bint Zam'ah.
He has the attitude that needs to be copied by every woman shalihah, attitudes shalihah featuring the figure of a wife, a Mother of the Faithful who realizes that he must be good suriteladan for the believing women in maintaining the integrity of a household.
In short, that the Messenger of Allah as human beings have feelings like and dislike naturally. Sauda is the first woman he married after the death of Khadijah. She was a widow and old, but due to the fortitude and faith was, he sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam then married her and honor as Mother of the Faithful.
After a long marriage, and he also after that already has other wives, it appears there is a change of attitude toward self as though he was no longer wanted the same house with her alias wants to divorce her. This attitude is captured well by Sauda and signs that do not benefit him this he manfa'atkan Momennya, that he would willingly make peace and give in, in order to maintain the integrity and dignity of households that have been venerated as the Mother of the Faithful. That is, he willingly and ikhlash gilirnya allocate to the wife of another Prophet, namely 'Aishah radliyallâhu' anha.
Recognizing the widespread phenomenon that does not educate even misleading, in particular, the impressions-impressions in electronic media such as patron-patron who tried to undermine domestic order and deliberately provoke the Muslims to fight the mothers 'confinement' of women's rights - in their assumption - by choosing 'divorced' rather than 'co-wife', and so on: in it we see the need to raise this theme, at least, to arouse the women as a whole and the shalihah wives in particular. Hopefully bermanfa'at and can be used as food for thought and consideration by every women. And Allaah knows best. (Red.)
Manuscript Hadith عن عائشة «أن سودة بنت زمعة وهبت يومها لعائشة, وكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقسم لعائشة بيومها ويوم سودة». متفق عليه "From 'Aisha-radliallâhu' anha-Sauda bint that Zam'ah - radliallâhu 'anha - has provided rations gilirnya to' Aisha, and the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam has rotated' Aisha (the ration gilirnya) plus rations turn Sauda". (Agreed alaih)
Hadith Takhrij Globally
In the book works Bulûghul Marâm Shaykh Ibn Hajar al-'Asqalâny mention that the above hadith, narrated as agreed by Imam Bukhari and Muslim. However, we did not get the history of Imam Muslim the same as those lafazh.
This is narrated also by Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah and Imam Ahmad.
Some Lessons From the Hadith
Sauda bint al-Qurasyiyyah Zam'ah Al-'آ miriyyah is the second wife of the Prophet's wives in addition to the other. He married her after Khadijah died. When was married to him, he was already old and his condition is getting weaker. Therefore, he worried, he sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam would divorce her so that she will lose the dignity of the noble and great pleasure as one of the wives of the Prophet. From that, he willingly gave up rations gilirnya to 'Aisha as long as he can remain a wife. He-was received the way he did this. And when the Prophet died, he still remains predicated as one of Ummahâtul Faithful.
Ath-Thayâlisy Abu Dawud narrated from Ibn 'Abbas, he said: "Saudah dithalaq worried by the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, then he said to him: 'O Messenger of Allah! Thou shalt not ration gilirku menthalaqku and make for 'Aisha!'. He agreed to do it so that this verse came down: وإن امرأة خافت من بعلها نشوزا أو إعراضا فلاجناح عليهمآ أن يصلحا بينهما صلحا والصلح خير "And if a woman (wife) worried about the indifferent cruelty or desertion from her husband, then why not for them to make peace in truth, and peace is better (for them)". (Q., s.an-Nisa `/ 04:128)
And in the book 'al-Shahîhain' (Saheeh Bukhary and Muslim) from 'A'isha, he said: "When Sauda was twilight age (old) he should give (voluntarily) gilirnya rations to' Aisha. Then, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam gilirnya distribute rations to' Aisha ".

Above hadith indicates the permissibility of peace between husband and wife. This can be done when the wife felt her husband had started to stay away or turn away from him while he himself was afraid to be divorced as if cut off all his rights or in part from the division of living, clothing, shelter and so forth that originally was part preacher husband's obligation to it. While the husband, may receive it from him and the wife is not guilty by giving gilirnya rations. Similarly, he does not sin if accepted. Therefore, Allah Ta'ala says: "then why not for them to make peace in truth, and peace is better (for them)". That is, that peace is better than separation and divorce.
Actions taken by the Mother of the Faithful, Sauda radliallâhu 'anha was a wise move at all. Therefore, based on the authentic history, 'Aisha once commented: "No man I'd rather be selumur (snake skin outside the sheath) for him (apart) from Sauda". This was said because he was so impressed by the attitude of Sauda. Sauda died at the end of the caliphate of 'Umar radliallâhu' anhu.
The scholars said: "If a wife gives ration turn day and night for one of the wives of others (honey) from her husband, then it is not a prerequisite for the rights of the husband and did not have a big impact. So, he can just go to the giver of this gilirnya rations with him willingly or not because it is enough with the other wives. But if he (the husband) willing then it should ".
If the husband has many wives (three or four people), then the wife who gave up this gilirnya determine allotments to one among the honey-honey, then it is considered as legally valid by Sauda story of 'Aisha above. But, if he allowed his share without specifying to whom it is among the honey-honey that's what he gave, then the husband should equalize the rations with each other. In this case, no longer enter the allotment cultivation of the giver.
Wife who has given rations gilirnya honey is okay to pull back the gift was from her husband whenever he wants because the legal origin of all gifts (Grant) is allowed to withdraw / take it back for yet held (agreed the deal) for both current and for that will be coming. And Allaah knows best. (Taken from the Book of Tawdlîh al-Ahkam al-Marâm Bulûgh Min, the work of Shaykh 'Abdullah Bassam آ li, Jld. IV, Hal. 519-520, No. 921)